People often misunderstand Platonic love as "asexual," thinking it is a form of deficiency or helplessness.

This is a huge mistake. In fact, it is a kind of "luxury" with an extremely high threshold.

The essence of desire is "possession" and "devouring." When you yearn to have someone, you are often not loving the person themselves, but the function they can fulfill to fill your emptiness. At this moment, they are the object of your desire.

Only by removing the interference of possessiveness can you truly see the other person as an independent subject with a soul. This is not asceticism; it is a jailbreak—breaking out of the cage of biological instincts to purely "witness" the existence of another life, without trying to change them to serve yourself.

In this era where everything can be consumed and everyone is eager to cash out, do you still possess a certain ability: to appreciate a flower blooming without wanting to pick it and take it home?

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