Sooner or later, you'll discover that many things don't matter, and you don't need to care about them.

When you start letting go of those unimportant things, you'll become free, happy, and become "yourself" — not by seeking a stereotypical identity in society.
Becoming yourself means earning your own money, saying what you want to say, doing what you want to do, and not giving a damn what others think if they're not putting money in your pocket.