Actually, the most unforgivable mistake a person can make in their lifetime is marriage. It’s different from other matters; there is room for redemption. If you choose the wrong partner, the cost is not just a few short years of your time, but your entire life script being completely rewritten. Most of the time, the rewrite ends in tragedy and misery, with no good outcome. Don’t believe in love, don’t believe in love, believe in character, because when love disappears, if the other person is a good person, at least you won’t be battered and bruised everywhere. Regarding marriage and partners, here are some thoughts:

First, don’t be fooled by hobbies. Many people think that if two people don’t like the same food or don’t watch the same movies, they are incompatible. Actually, these superficial things can be ignored. The most deadly is the underlying consensus. What is underlying values? It’s not about interests or hobbies. It’s about what core values you truly follow when facing temptation, conflict, and利益选择? For example, if you believe honesty and trustworthiness are essential, but he thinks lying for利益 is okay, that’s a fundamental difference. If you believe one should constantly grow and challenge oneself, but he just wants stability or even thinks it’s pointless to mess around, that’s a problem. For instance, you think family comes first, but he thinks work comes first. If these differences persist over time, it will become a disaster. Moreover, these conflicts are irreconcilable; they will wear you down like a dull knife.

Second, a partner is not your face, but your charging station. The ultimate goal of finding a partner is to achieve long-term happiness and inner peace. If your relationship is terrible, it will destroy your inner defenses. Imagine this: every day you come home to arguments, scheming, and suspicion. Your home becomes like a second battlefield. You’re already exhausted from work. When you get home, you not only can’t recharge but also continue to drain your energy and cause internal friction. Over time, your mindset, career, health, and relationships will all suffer. The right person will make you feel very peaceful. In this anxious era, someone who can calm your mind is a hundred times more precious than someone who makes your heart race.

Third, either grow better together or fall apart together. The freshness brought by income and appearance can only last a few years, but shared understanding of life can sustain for decades. Choosing a partner should not only be about immediate happiness but also about future lifestyle compatibility. You need to observe their habits because living together means habits are contagious. If the other person is proactive, disciplined, and emotionally stable, you will find yourself gradually becoming better. If they are negative, complain, and just get by, your original enthusiasm will slowly fade away. This also affects your next generation—the way parents interact and their values shape the child’s entire world.

Finally, I want to say that life is long. Whether in career or investment, there are opportunities to turn things around. But when it comes to love, choice is greater than effort. Don’t settle because of loneliness or age. Find someone who can protect your inner peace, share the same core logic, and walk with you to make life better and better. That is the greatest responsibility you have for yourself. I hope you find the right person—through three meals and four seasons, under the bright moon and gentle breeze. I wish you happiness.