Whenever you feel the urge to contact an old flame, it marks the beginning of your luck going downhill; this is a very bad affair. The reason an old flame has become an old flame is that the bond between you has ended in the present moment, and something better is waiting for you ahead. Fate, fate, the moment two people meet is fate, and walking together from that point is a bond; whether there is fate without a bond or the fate has ended, this cannot be forced by human will. When you try to force it, you will find that what you attract is likely not happiness, but a new round of internal turmoil, uncertainty and anxiety. We often say to cherish fate and not to cling to it, because clinging puts you in a very low position to seek the other person. You may wonder how to make the other person turn back to find you? I want to share a harsh truth: if the other person really turns back to find you, 70 to 80 percent of the time, it is because they cannot find anyone better than you, or cannot find someone easier to control; they want to ride a donkey while looking for a horse. Even if you are in that remaining 30% situation, if the conditions aren't right, it is likely to fall back into old patterns. In this process, what is most regrettable is not the time and energy spent, but that you may miss new stories and true happiness. Only when the wrong state has passed will true happiness come rushing towards you. Do not be afraid of momentary pain; feeling pain means you are being reborn through the process of breaking down.